“Martha, burdened with much serving, came to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me by myself to do the serving? Tell her to help me.”
The Lord said to her in reply, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and worried about many things.
There is need of only one thing. Mary has chosen the better part and it will not be taken from her.”
Luke 10:40-42 (NAB)
There has always been debate and different opinions in interpreting the gospel story of these two sisters. Martha was actively serving Jesus, Mary was sitting at His feet, adoring Him, but both are really necessary.
Martha was doing all the work by herself and finally complained, asking Jesus to make Mary help her.
The difference between the two sisters is that Martha talked about Mary to Jesus, while Mary immersed herself in listening to what Jesus had to say, and He never did tell her to help Martha. Jesus saw Martha’s anxiety and told her that Mary had chosen the better part, which will not be taken from her.
Since Jesus said that Mary chose the better part, some interpret that to mean that labor is not highly valued. Instead of taking one scripture out of context, reading the whole gospel gives us a more rounded picture.
Jesus never downplayed our labor and service for God, but actually said that there is a great need for “more” laborers in His Father’s harvest. (Matthew 9:38)
The two sisters, along with their brother, Lazarus, knew and loved Jesus since their youth, yet they each had different personalities and different ways of expressing their love for Him, just as every person today has. Martha was dedicated to hospitality, but Mary longed for private time and intimacy with Jesus.
By telling Martha that she is anxious about too many things, Jesus wasn’t saying that her service and labor do not count, only that worship and adoration needs to come first. Time spent listening to Jesus at the start of each day should come before our service and labor for Him.
Everyone leads busy, hectic lives, and we all feel Martha’s anxiety at times. We were all meant to do both, serve God and worship Him. When Jesus said that Mary chose the better part, it’s to our advantage to begin each day spending time alone with Him, so that we can work with much less anxiety than Martha worked under.
One of my favorite lay speakers said:
“Lord, help us to be more like Mary so that we don’t have to work like Martha.” (Chris Stefanik)
It isn’t a statement to undermine work, but a reminder that there’s a proper order to follow, so that our work is done in the right spirit, with joy, and not resentment.
Spending quiet, intimate time with Jesus prepares us to serve Him, and not vice versa.
Jesus said that the better part will not be taken away from Mary, which is an interesting statement. Maybe He was warning Martha that it’s too easy to lose ourselves in our labors, even if those labors are for God. Hospitality and serving Jesus pleases Him, but we also need to listen and hear what He is telling us. Mary dedicated her time listening to Jesus.
Maybe Mary chose to give Jesus her undivided attention, while she could, having an intuition that His time on earth would be brief, since He was crucified only three years into His ministry. Life passes by quickly, and the intimate, private time spent with Him, prepares us to live with Him eternally.
Lord, help us to follow Mary in choosing time with you first, so that we may serve you without anxiety. Bless our quiet time as well as our labors, which are all for your honor and glory. Amen
