“Martha, burdened with much serving, came to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me by myself to do the serving? Tell her to help me.”
The Lord said to her in reply, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and worried about many things.
There is need of only one thing. Mary has chosen the better part and it will not be taken from her.”
Luke 10:40-42 (NAB)
Bethany was a common stop for travelers, going to Jerusalem from Nazareth. Jesus and his parents traveled to Jerusalem throughout the years for religious holidays. They likely stopped over in the town of Bethany to spend time with the family of Lazarus, who befriended and hosted Joseph, Mary and Jesus in those earlier years. The friendship between Jesus, Lazarus, Mary and Martha developed and grew deeper over the years.
The parents of Lazarus and Jesus’ father, Joseph, are not mentioned in this gospel story. The children are now young adults and very close friends. Jesus is just beginning His ministry and is the guest at their home along with His disciples, as Martha serves them. Mary appears to have abandoned Martha, while sitting at Jesus’ feet, in adoration. Perhaps she is seeing Him for the first time as her Lord and Messiah, and not merely her childhood friend.
There has always been debate over differing viewpoints about these two sisters in the gospel. Both sisters knew and loved Jesus, but Martha was busy serving, as Mary was listening to Jesus reveal Himself and His teachings.
Some interpret this story to mean that service means nothing without true worship and others say that worship means nothing without true service. Both views are true and understandable, so we look to see what Jesus said about it.
Jesus looked at Martha and told her that she was way too anxious. He wasn’t saying that service is not meaningful. In fact, He said that there is a great need for more laborers to work in His Father’s harvest. (Matthew 9:38)
Jesus just wanted Martha to understand which response comes first. Our personal time spent with Him needs to come before our service and labor. We were meant to worship and to serve, yet Jesus said that Mary chose the “better”part, because it cannot be taken away.
Chris Stefanik, a Christian lay speaker, once said;
“Lord, help us to be more like Mary so that we don’t have to work like Martha.” He didn’t mean that we shouldn’t work at all, but that there is a proper order to follow, so that we can serve God with joy, and not with all the anxiety that Martha carried around. Adoring Jesus and spending time listening to Him, comes first. It prepares us to serve Him in the spiritually healthy way, freed from the anxiety that leads to criticizing others.
Martha thought Mary wasted time sitting at Jesus’ feet, and she urged Him to tell Mary to help her. The difference between the two sisters is that Martha wanted Jesus to talk to Mary and correct her, but Mary wanted and needed only to listen to Jesus talk to her.
Jesus told Martha that Mary has chosen the “better” part, which will not be taken from her. Jesus ended His sentence, indicating that there is something better that precedes all service to God, that will never be taken away.
Jesus was warning Martha that we can lose ourselves in our labors, even when our labors are for Him. Hospitality and service is valuable, but some people can go through all the labor but still not know Him. Jesus asks us to abide in Him, which requires time spent with Him.
We need Mary’s hunger to spend time with Him in prayer. To know Jesus is the better thing that produces the best servants, who listen to what He is saying before going out to labor in the world. It’s the “better”part that prepares us for eternal life with Him.
Lord, help us to follow Mary in choosing to first spend time with you, so that we may serve like Martha, but without anxiety. Amen










