“Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you.”
Jeremiah 29:12 ( RSV)
The Lord said when we talk to Him, He will hear us, and when He talks to us, we were meant to hear from Him as well. I can think of several times when I talk more than I listen. I think I’ve been this way all of my life, whether it is with my children, my husband or my friends, I always felt I needed to give the right answer, when it would have been better if I just listened.
In thinking about my listening skills, there’s a lot of work to be done there. When I feel listened to by someone, it makes me want to return to that person and talk to them even more. Those who are good listeners will have many friends. Being a good listener is a wonderful goal to aim for.
Listening is a gift from God that we can share with anyone. We naturally enjoy the company of those who listen to us. There’s a difference in being talked at and talked with. To talk with someone is to first listen to them before responding.
Once at a family party, I was speaking to my nephew’s wife, who works as a counselor for trauma victims. I learned a lot as she shared her knowledge and skill of listening to her clients. I really enjoyed talking to her, and was impressed with what a great listener she was, but after all, that is her field of expertise.
The Lord seemed to be telling me that we don’t need a degree in psychology to be a better listener. It’s an intentional gift that we can give to others. Being heard means more than being spoken to, especially during a serious hardship. God can use us to give someone the gift of being heard.
As these thoughts filled my mind, I suddenly realized I was having a conversation with Jesus, and I was actually listening. The Lord
made His point by inspiring me to improve my own listening skills.
As we meet people with various problems, we don’t always have to offer them the perfect solution or have the answers to their problems. Having all the right answers are for tests and game shows. When it comes to relationships, most people need a friend who listens. As I look back on my life, even in every good relationship, I might have missed opportunities to be a better listener.
The beauty of abiding in Jesus, is that He isn’t looking for people who never make mistakes, just teachable people who can learn from them.
It helps to practice His presence daily, by having daily chats with Jesus, since it is during those chats that we become better listeners. After we listen to Him, we can go out into the world and give the gift of listening to others.
Lord, thank you for always listening to us, and help us to become better listeners to you and to give the gift of listening to whoever we meet. Amen










